Emotional style
You intellectualize your emotions and live them from a little distance; intense emotion makes you uncomfortable, and you want to stay "objective."
What they need
Freedom, autonomy and room to be different — not feeling emotionally suffocated.
Their instinct
Ideas, community, friendship and the unconventional; when tense, you flee into distance, into the mind and into groups.
To feel safe
Space, freedom, a mental bond and unconditional acceptance; possessiveness and excessive emotionality push you away.
When off balance
Emotional detachment, distance, fleeing from closeness, rationalizing feelings.